I'm a Medical Laboratory Scientist. I've been working with a diagnostic company for the past six months. Working with different people is interesting. You get exposed to different mindsets and different characters and guess what, most of us are just the same in some way.
Let me explain.
I came to the understanding that most people (not all, but most) like to come to you only with problems. This applies to work and also in relationships and other spheres of life too.
When people understand that you are willing and able to help, whenever they have difficulties, you will be the first on their mind. They always remember you when they have issues and in no other way.
They, in some way, use you to achieve what they want to achieve, after which they discard you and move on with their lives and jobs.
I have been on the receiving end of this for the most part and this is due to my quick willingness to help, sometimes to my own detriment, wasting my own valuable time, energy and resources.
HERE'S WHAT I AM LEARNING
Helping others is great, but I am learning to do so only when it will benefit me too in some way. This is not being selfish. This is being transactional and being intelligent. Time is very valuable. Physical and mental resources are very valuable.
If I am going to spend my time and my resources helping you achieve your goal. I suppose it should be great if I get something in return to also help me achieve my own goals. This is called Win-Win according to Steven Covey.
I am learning to play by the rules of Win-Win, not Win-Lose or Lose-Win.
If I help you in some way today, you will promise to help me in some other way or you do something for me that I cannot do for myself. In that case, I benefit from helping you.
This is what I'm learning from the few months that I've been working.
I will no longer let people use me without getting something for myself in return. I will not necessarily make this fact obvious, but I will make it in such a way as my assistance and my time will not be so easily given away as this habit itself makes me less valuable as a professional and as an individual.
I hope you learned something from this experience of mine.
Wishing you smashing success in your endeavors.
Let me leave you today with this quote by Og Mandino. I hope it motivates you at it does me:
Let me explain.
I came to the understanding that most people (not all, but most) like to come to you only with problems. This applies to work and also in relationships and other spheres of life too.
When people understand that you are willing and able to help, whenever they have difficulties, you will be the first on their mind. They always remember you when they have issues and in no other way.
They, in some way, use you to achieve what they want to achieve, after which they discard you and move on with their lives and jobs.
I have been on the receiving end of this for the most part and this is due to my quick willingness to help, sometimes to my own detriment, wasting my own valuable time, energy and resources.
HERE'S WHAT I AM LEARNING
Helping others is great, but I am learning to do so only when it will benefit me too in some way. This is not being selfish. This is being transactional and being intelligent. Time is very valuable. Physical and mental resources are very valuable.
If I am going to spend my time and my resources helping you achieve your goal. I suppose it should be great if I get something in return to also help me achieve my own goals. This is called Win-Win according to Steven Covey.
I am learning to play by the rules of Win-Win, not Win-Lose or Lose-Win.
If I help you in some way today, you will promise to help me in some other way or you do something for me that I cannot do for myself. In that case, I benefit from helping you.
This is what I'm learning from the few months that I've been working.
I will no longer let people use me without getting something for myself in return. I will not necessarily make this fact obvious, but I will make it in such a way as my assistance and my time will not be so easily given away as this habit itself makes me less valuable as a professional and as an individual.
I hope you learned something from this experience of mine.
Wishing you smashing success in your endeavors.
Let me leave you today with this quote by Og Mandino. I hope it motivates you at it does me:
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