When I was younger, I underwent several trainings on teaching and handling children. I was a children's Sunday school teacher for at least 5 years. From training, personal experience and research, I learned some pretty interesting things.
I have a word for parents and prospective parents. If you want to get your child to do what you say. If you want to get your child to be exemplary, obedient and a kid that you'll be proud of, then you must understand that punishment or threats of punishment NEVER WORKS, or rather, it only works when you're there or when you can discover what they did.
Children are very intelligent. If you want to get a child to obey your instructions, the only lasting and effective way to do this is to talk to them and explain to them WHY they shouldn't do something. Give them a REASON. Also tell them how doing differently from what you instructed makes you disappointed in them and how you believe and trust them to always do the right thing.
Ordering children around at will never gets them to be compliant. It doesn't instill in them the character that they need. A lot of parents, I noticed, are too harsh and authoritative to their kids. They scream at them all the time at their kids. This is bad, and in addition, it doesn't work. If you want to have great kids. Talk to them, discuss with them. Encourage them. TALK with them.
Then sit down and observe what happens! I understand that we are not used to that but I'm afraid, what we're used to doesn't work.
You can be firm to your kids of course, but not harsh. There's a difference.
What do you think?
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